Chocolate Coconut Banana Cream Pie

Name: Chocolate Coconut Banana Cream Pie
Ingredients: Ingredients for chocolate wafer crust; 22 chocolate wafer cookies crushed; 1/4 cup sugar; 3 tablespoons softened butter; Ingredients for filling; 3 ounces semisweet baking chocolate; 1 tablespoon nonfat milk; 1 tablespoon butter; 2-3 bananas sliced; 1 1/2 cups cold nonfat milk; 1 3.5-ounce package instant banana cream pudding mix; 1 1/2 cups flaked coconut plus 3 tablespoons flaked coconut, toasted; 1 1/2 cups cold whipped cream; 1/4 cup powdered sugar; 1 teaspoon rum or coconut extract (optional)